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There is no value in being right
Do you want to be right or do you want peace. There's a fine line between that and never speaking up.
it’s at such a point that you must decide whether you want to be right or you want to have peace. You must decide whether to insist upon the absolute correctness of your view, or to listen and negotiate. You don’t get peace by being right. You just get to be right, while your partner gets to be wrong—defeated and wrong. Do that ten thousand times and your marriage will be over (or you will wish it was). To choose the alternative—to seek peace—you have to decide that you want the answer, more than you want to be right. That’s the way out of the prison of your stubborn preconceptions. That’s the prerequisite for negotiation.
I think it’s interesting here because it’s a fine line between not speaking up and choosing peace. So, we talked about Why we must be honest all the time but there are times when we need to just keep our mouth shut because peace is the better answer here.
Like if I am annoyed at someone because I’m tired. It’s better to not tell them how I feel to risk saying something bad, than to “be honest” about it. Why provoke a fight about something that doesn’t matter ?