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budding 4 by 6 V60 Method (Portable) V2 The V60 method stripped back to what fits in a bag. A drip kettle, an 01 dripper and a travel mug. budding 4 by 6 V60 Method The all round brew method I was taught at ONA back in 2023. seedling A superstimulus will hijack all your sense Porn, sugar, anything that feels too good. It hijacks your senses until you can't think about anything else. Environment · Health budding Avoid the delivery trap The better you get at delivering, the more that becomes the only thing they judge you on. Corporate budding Certainty doesn't exist but we always crave it We take the safe job, the packaged tour, someone else's advice. All of it to avoid facing the unknown. Mindset seedling Corporate work is a bad deal We're told to diversify our investments, then put all our time into one employer and hope they keep us. Corporate budding Conditioning is good for the world but bad for me Schools, parents and companies all shape how you think. Good for holding a society together, lonely if you don't fit it. Society budding Don't be an expert, be the only It's impossible to be the best at something, so you're better finding your niche to own Mindset seedling Don't give overviews, summaries or grand statement, just start with the story No 'this is a story about'. Start with the story and move people along. Storytelling seedling Don't ruin the surprise with overviews or summaries Give away the result first and the audience stops caring. Tell it beat by beat as it happened. Storytelling budding Explore if identities are important to the conversation People hold more than one identity. Draw them out before you put someone in the wrong bucket. Conversation budding How conditioning affects the way you think Where my overthinking comes from, and how to get back the child like part that just does the thing. Confidence seedling Hours is what companies use to measure you Companies can't measure your impact, so they measure your hours. Most of them are a cult of hours. Corporate budding Gong fu Tea Method Quick steeps of loose leaves through a sift into a carafe. The first three brews can taste very different. seedling how to navigate arguments Going into a conversation you know you'll disagree in. Acknowledge, find agreement, drop the sweeping claims. Arguments budding Intuition has to be stress-tested for it to be useful There's a fine line between intuition and arrogance. Use the times you're wrong to re-align. Confidence · Mindset · Business budding Intuition is trusting yourself Working out what trusting myself actually means. Take advice from anyone, but the decision has to be mine. Confidence seedling It's not about value, it's about time in companies You can bring more impact than the person beside you. Without more hours, you won't be paid more. Corporate seedling Learning is Freedom from everything Why work hard, why read, why learn anything. The answer is freedom, and a world that's less scary. Learning · Mindset seedling Loneliness Me working out what being alone actually means, and why I want more people who understand me. Loneliness budding looping to understand someone better Saying back what someone told you in your own words. Getting it wrong still shows you're trying. Conversation budding Modified Grandpa Method Tea leaves, hot water, a cup. Modified because I'm not a fan of chewing on leaves. seedling No one fights for what they believe in People don't fight for what they believe. They fight to keep believing what they already do. Mindset budding Not Everything needs to be happy The world punishes people for being sad, which is unrealistic. Better to accept it and move through. Sadness seedling Not having FOMO is the best financial skill you can have Stick to what you know works. Be happy watching someone get richer doing what you'd never do. Mindset seedling On focusing on the present A reminder to focus on the present and not the future. Mindset evergreen Pay attention to what people want from a conversation Practical, emotional or social. Work out which conversation someone wants before you answer the wrong one. Conversation seedling Raise the stakes and suspense with a hourglass Slowing down at the climax of a story to stretch out the anticipation. Storytelling seedling Raise the stakes with a backpack Loading the audience with the same hopes you had at the time, so they feel what you felt. Storytelling seedling Raise the stakes with a crystal ball A false prediction to hook the audience. I don't really agree with this one, it's been overplayed. Storytelling budding Raise the stakes with an elephant The big obvious thing everyone can see. Name it early so people know where the story is going. Storytelling budding Share your goals to enter a meaningful conversation Say what you want to talk about. Then people can accept it, reject it, or you pivot. Conversation evergreen Share your own feelings and ask about others Emotions are the bedrock of a deep conversation. Be vulnerable first and see if they reciprocate. Conversation budding Stop Arguing with the world Saying that's not fair is bargaining with how the world should work instead of accepting how it does. Mindset seedling Stop Complaining, it does not solve anything No one cares about your excuses as much as you do. You can't pick the hand, only how you play it. Mindset · Confidence seedling Stories should start with location and action Dive straight in so the audience forgets they're standing there listening to you. Storytelling seedling Suspense is strategically hiding information Hold things back. Say shiny metal object instead of spoon and let the audience fill the gap. Storytelling budding the decision to leave work is never sudden It's a pebble in your shoe. A promotion makes it subside, then it comes back bigger. Decisions budding The most important thing in a conversation is alignment and understanding Alignment isn't agreeing. It's understanding their view fully while still saying your own. Conversation seedling The path to leaving corporate is lonely You lose interest in the company events and drift from your team. Nobody around you shares the reason. Corporate · Loneliness evergreen The three essential components of a story - stakes, suspense and surprise Assume nobody cares what you have to say. Stakes, suspense and surprise are what keep them there. Storytelling seedling The truth is the only way forward I still lie about some things. What I can do is be deliberate about where. Honesty · Mindset seedling The World is full of lonely people waiting for someone to make the first move Everyone is waiting for someone else to start. Be the one who does, you never know who you help. Loneliness seedling There is no value in being right Do you want to be right or do you want peace. There's a fine line between that and never speaking up. Arguments · Mindset budding Tips to make online messaging better Overdo the politeness, drop the sarcasm, never criticise in public. You have fewer tools over text. Conversation budding Vagueness prevents you from moving forward in companies It's in the company's interest to keep your performance vague. Vague means they can spin it either way. Corporate budding We must leave our nest to make sense of the world You take your parents' values, leave to find your own, then come back and integrate what was good. Confidence budding We talk to think and need feedback to correct us Your brain can rationalise anything. You need other people to tell you what's actually real. Conversation budding What you tell yourself about you is the most important thing Okay, I fucked up, let's move on. Not beating yourself up, but not blaming everyone else either. Confidence seedling Why I am drawn to romance and sadness Sad and family films are me trying to see something I've lacked for most of my life. Sadness budding Why I hate certain words Therapyspeak dilutes the words that matter. If trauma now means uncomfortable, what do you say to someone who's had the real thing? Society budding Why logic bullying doesn't work Throwing facts at someone who's talking about feelings. You're on two different playing fields. Arguments seedling Why I like sad and romance movies Sappy romance films are me trying to recreate a feeling of love I used to have. Sadness seedling Why Nihilism doesn't feel good Any idiot can pick a time frame where nothing matters. I do it myself, and something beats nothing. Meaning seedling Why Small Social Norms are bad for us Carving out smaller and smaller groups breaks the unity and leaves you with in fighting. Society seedling Why we must be honest all the time Say how you feel or you'll resent yourself for it, and that resentment bleeds out somewhere else. Honesty · Mindset budding Why we need accuracy when we speak Vague words let people hide. It's why I insist on specificity, even when it's awkward. Honesty budding Why we need systems You aren't consistent. Systems take the decision off the day you slept badly. Systems budding Why working after hours at a 9-5 doesn't make sense Overachiever is carnival cash. It's worth nothing the moment you leave. Corporate seedling Why You Shouldn't be Funny All the time Trying to be funny all the time is exhausting. Put the humour where it works. Conversation seedling You cannot feel full with just your mouth Your mouth learns taste, not nutrients. Which is how you get fat fast eating what tastes good. Food · Health